Do you not know that friendship with the world is enmity with God? James 4:4
Pride Promotes Stife
James 4:1 -
Where do wars and fights come from among you? Do they not come from your desires for pleasure that war in your members?
James 4:5b-6 -
"The Spirit who dwells in us yearns jealously"? ... "God resist the proud, ..."
Our selfish desires throw a roadblock in front of our ability to love.
Christians try to meet their own needs without actually turning to God; that is the way of the world (worldiness).
James says that Christians who lives a selfish life is adultery against the Holy Spirit! James 4:3-4a: You ask and do not receive because you ask amiss, that you may spend it on your pleasures. Adulterers and adulteresses!